Are you caught in a cycle of toxic thinking? Toxic thinking can be described as, “Toxic thoughts are false beliefs that negatively influence your life (and the lives of those who are close to you). Your thinking can also affect your health, sleep patterns, anxiety levels, and more. Consider these examples of toxic thinking: Personalizing failure.”
These thoughts are bombarding every one of us every day 24/7. And the truth is. These thoughts are all lies. You are continually believing lies about yourself.
Dr. Arathi Rao, a life and health coach, writes in her blog, empoweredmind.com about 10 things that will, cause you to have toxic thinking.
Everyone does it at one point or another- we compare ourselves to other people. Whether they’re smarter or taller or better looking, we take those differences and produce toxic thoughts around them. The reality is that everyone is different. There is no sense in comparing yourself to anyone else because then you’re constantly living in chains. You’re a slave to the other person you’re comparing yourself to. Instead of working to improve yourself for your own success and happiness you’re just playing a game of “keeping up.” You need to accept that you will never win. Once you do that, you will realize that you don’t need to compare yourself to others. Instead, think of ways you can be the best version of yourself.
2. Self Doubt
No one knows you better than you know yourself, but sometimes you may have a lapse in judgment which may cause you to second guess yourself. This is dangerous because it can really inhibit your chances at success. Always doubting yourself compromises any chance you have at being independent and confident. These are the key ingredients to success, so the faster you stop second guessing yourself the faster you will reach your goals.
3. Focusing on the Past
It’s called the past for a reason. It’s time to let go of what happened in 1995 and move on. Sure, looking to the past to prevent yourself from repeating mistakes is fine, but there is a line that is crossed when you obsess about it so much that it impacts your present and future. There is a reason we don’t have time machines, so leave the past alone and focus on the now.
4. The Need to Always Be Right
Let’s face it, it feels good to be right, but sadly the world doesn’t always work to your advantage and there will be times when you are flat out wrong. But guess what? That is okay. Stop telling yourself you always have to be right. This is dangerous because it can seriously affect your relationships. Sometimes there is no right answer, just remember that.
5. Letting Struggles Break You
In life, there are always going to be times when you struggle, but it’s up to you to learn from those struggles and not let them break you. A successful person is able to stand back up every time they fall. Don’t let one or even one hundred failures lead to your breaking point. If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.
6. Worrying About the Future
Just as dwelling on the past is toxic, over worrying about the future can be a grave mistake as well. It’s important to give some thought to the future so that you can come up with a plan to reach your goals, but over obsessing is never good. Forgetting to live in the present can have serious implications on your happiness and success.
7. Thinking You Can Change Someone Else
As much as you would love to change your father’s smoking habit or your friend’s unhealthy obsession with wine, it’s something that you simply cannot do. You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself. It is not your fault that other people are the way they are. We all have free will to do what we want with ourselves and it’s not your responsibility to try and change that. Only they can truly change themselves, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be there to support them.
8. Allowing Negativity to Dictate Your Life
This one is simple. Negative thoughts can overrun your mind and cause you to feel stressed or even depressed. Dwelling on negativity is a success killer and can even have physical side effects. The best solution is to remain positive and take the time to relax. Condition your mind to see the positive in everything and you’ll be back on track to a successful life.
9. Lack of Trust
This is especially toxic in relationships because most are supposed to be built on trust. It is okay to trust people. Not everyone is out to get you and the sooner you realize that the sooner you will be on your way to clearing negativity from your life. Sometimes it may even be hard to trust yourself let alone other people. You have to start out by trusting yourself before you can trust others. Once you do this you can move forward with your life.
10. Worrying About What Others Think
This is an extremely toxic thought because it prevents you from living your life. Constantly wondering what the people around you think is useless because no matter what you do- good or bad- someone somewhere will always think something! So let go of that negative feeling and start living. If something makes you happy, who cares what others think about it? You have to live your life for you, not for other people.
In order to be successful, it’s important to heal those toxic thoughts. After all, thoughts shape our experiences. It’s up to you to take control of your mind in order to control your life. You have the power to fix the outcomes, it just takes a little brain power.
I have to say amen and thank you to to Doctor Arathi Raon for listing these 10 toxic thinking items. I often find myself in the depths of toxic thinking worrying about what others are thinking of me, thinking I can change the person or the situation, I also have an issue trusting myself and others, and I do have a to face the bull in the china shop and say that I do like to be right.
Now, I just have to stop the toxic thinking and do the opposite when these thoughts pop up in my mind! You can find Dr. Arathi Rao over at https://www.empoweredmind.com.